There is only one thing dominating the news in the UK at the moment and that is the general election.
Now, if you are a regular reader of the HC newsletter, you will know that I am not a big fan of politicians per se, so you may asking what on earth do I think we can learn from them, especially when it comes to horses.
Well, if you listen to all parties and their arguments long enough and carefully enough, they do actually make some fair and reasonable points. Yes, on both sides of the political divide. In other words, even in the black and white world of politics, it is possible to get a balanced view – but only as long as you make it yourself.
The same applies to training your horse, or training yourself for that matter, there is no one right approach. Most trainers have excellent techniques in some disciplines but are not so strong in others. Plus, by limiting yourself to one expert or guru you are cutting off other possibilities for both you and your horse.
The best trainers will tell you to use what resonates and works for you and discard what doesn’t. In fact, the very best trainers would advise you to look elsewhere for certain types of training because it is not their forte. Or to use their method alongside that of others and if they think that combination would be the solution for you.
These trainers are able to do this because they have self-confidence in their own abilities and don’t suffer from overblown egos. Unfortunately, the same cannot be said of politicians!
We heard on a past HorseConscious member training with Sandra Wallin of the story of her going to a workshop where she was told by a so-called expert to handle her horse a certain way. Sandra said that she felt inside that the approach was wrong but being a novice at the time, she didn’t want to question it.
She later discovered that this was not what worked for her and her horse and was really disgusted with what happened – mainly with herself.
On a side note, hats off to Sandra for having the guts, self-confidence and lack of ego to admit such a thing.
I’m sure this happens more often than we think, with many people lacking the confidence to stand up and say, “The emperor has no clothes!”
Don’t let this happen to you. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s probably a sign that it isn’t right. Just because you have followed devotedly the teachings of guru X, you do not have to take every word as gospel. Take what works for you, discard what doesn’t and stay open to the possibilities.