I have found that horses respond extraordinarily well to nurturing feminine energy. In this article, I will explain how I came to this conclusion, as well as just what I mean by nurturing feminine energy.
I have always wanted my horses to be healthy, sound, relaxed and comfortable. I also wanted to personally have the knowledge and skills necessary to build an awesome relationship with them. I wanted them to love being with me and to really enjoy doing things with and for me. And beyond that, I wanted them to love physical intimacy. I love holding and cuddling my animals, and even though my horses were too big to curl up in my lap, they weren’t too big to enjoy closeness and hugging.
With The BIG Eraser and The Triple R I achieved my desire for my horses to be healthy, sound, relaxed and comfortable.
In addition, as the BIG Eraser and Triple R gradually taught me the tiny details of the horse’s subtle language, I became more and more able to know what my horses were telling me about how they were feeling in every moment. This in turn gave me the ability to allow THEM to guide ME toward achieving the kind of relationship that I wanted to have with them. As I progressed along this path, they directed me toward an approach that was extremely different than the “usual” approach, and even different from the some of the more conscious approaches.
When I talk about nurturing feminine energy, I’m referring to the aspect of feminine energy that directly relates to raising children. The embodiment of this nurturing feminine energy is The Mother. The Mother can be either a woman or a man.
The Mother satisfies the infant’s and child’s needs for infinite unconditional love, compassion, understanding, nurturing, comfort and protection. She satisfies the need for physical intimacy, such as being held, cradled or hugged. Children scare easily and The Mother comforts them by using a soft voice and soft humming or singing.
That is not to say that The Mother spoils or enables her children. Using patience and kindness, she guides them and teaches them the difference between right and wrong, and between acceptable behavior and unacceptable behavior. She always rewards them for right and acceptable behavior, and she knows that the most powerful reward is praise. She scolds them when necessary, and only resorts to punishment if it is absolutely necessary. She uses a clear and gentle, but firm approach. She is understanding when they forget themselves now and then, even if they know better, and while she does let them know that their behavior was unacceptable, she is not overly strong in her correction. The Mother never loses her temper or resorts to screaming, yelling or forceful behavior.
Horses are so very much like young children. They possess a similar level of intelligence and the ability to think, reason and learn as a young child does. Because the horse is a prey animal, she also feels fear very easily. The horse feels best when she is totally free from any fearful feelings. This only occurs when she feels totally protected. In the previous two paragraphs, the word “children” can be replaced by the word “horses”.
Most domesticated horses experience some level of mental/emotional and/or discomfort on a daily basis. Because there is always an element of fear associated with pain or discomfort, they are also experiencing fear on a daily basis, whether their handling is abusive or not. As a coping mechanism they shut down, and they bury their discomfort where it can be more easily ignored.
In a natural situation, the horse lives in a mostly quiet, peaceful, subtle world. Their senses of hearing, sight and smell are extremely keen. Humans cannot even begin to experience that level of subtlety. When noise or chaos erupts in the horses’ environment, it inspires fear and they flee.
The world of humans, on the other hand is full of noise and chaos. An environment that doesn’t seem at all noisy or chaotic to us is extremely amplified to the horse. Even our interactions with the horse are far from subtle. From the horse’s viewpoint, most people are like bulls in a china closet.
The horse flees from anything that causes her to feel fear, and she moves toward comfort and safety. Nurturing feminine energy is about as non threatening as you can get. The horse seeks the comfort and safety that it offers, and will gradually release the layers of protection that she has previously formed in order to bury her fear and discomfort.
As the horse develops more and more trust for the person who consistently offers comfort and safety, she opens up more and more and exposes her true self, her very soul. Little by little she will begin to open the door and allow you to peek in, until finally, when her trust becomes deep and complete she will open the door wide and invite you all the way in.
You may want a somewhat different relationship with your horse, but whatever relationship you desire, the key is to learn her language, listen to what she is saying, and allow it to guide you.